By: Shayna Sullivan
Rejection. It can come in many forms be it relationships, job interviews, presenting new ideas, getting into schools, and many more, but it all feels the same. The bottom line is rejection feels like the end of the world, but it is something that everyone goes through in one form or the other. We are currently in the stage of life where we may experience the most rejection in our personal or professional lives.
Currently, I am going through the process of applying to graduate school programs from speech language pathology. One thing that has been constantly on my mind is the possibility of rejection from the schools that I really want to go to. It has been a huge cloud over my head that creates a lot of anxiety and doubt when it comes to the application process.
Something that I have noticed is that rejection can paralyze people. It can hold people back and keep people from doing things that they really want to because of the fear of being rejected. Unfortunately, no matter how hard a person tries, rejection finds everyone eventually, so it is something that we all need to learn to handle. Rejection is a huge part of being human and learning from it is how we become better people and learn more about ourselves. We grow the most when we are dealing with a rejection.
There is a right way and a wrong way to deal with rejection and it is important to learn the right way, because let’s face it, we are all going to be rejected at some point. It can be easy to experience one rejection and let it crush your spirits. Now, I won’t sugar coat it, rejection does hurt. It feels like everything that you have worked for is not worth it, but that isn’t necessarily what rejection means.
It can be difficult, but I think that the better way to look at rejection is by viewing it as an opportunity to improve. Whether you are experiencing rejection in a job, a relationship, or an academic sense, you can use the feeling that rejection gives you and use it to better yourself. Take it as a learning opportunity. Rejection in a professional or academic sense can be easier to do this with than relationship rejection.
When considering rejection in a relationship, you are dealing with the sting of rejection along with a broken heart at the same time. It can be harder to get over and view in a positive light. This is because it is a lot more real and valid to take relationship rejection personally. This doesn’t mean that we can’t use these feelings to grow and change, though. Finding a way to better yourself is the best way that you can start to move on from that rejection. It is one of the ways that you can come out of a break up (whether it is a significant other or a best friend) stronger and ready to conquer new relationships. We all have areas of our lives that we need to work on
Rejection definitely stings and it can be very hard to get over it, but when you take rejection as the opportunity to grow, it can make you view things in a different light. Everyone is looking for different things, in their personal life and in other areas of their lives. If you are rejected, try not to take it too personally. What we have to remember to not do is let rejection stop us from being our best selves. We all are capable of achieving amazing things, and rejection is how we grow and change in order to become who we are meant to be. It may seem cheesy, but everything happens for a reason, and that includes rejection.